It Doesn't Look Good

It doesn't look good - often heard after a task has been completed - a critique of one's craftsmanship - quality of almost any task.  Most often this criticism means the task needs to be repeated - done over - a second attempt required to complete the task - project.  In life there are numerous opportunities for a do-over - an opportunity to improve upon ones efforts.  In some things - only one chance to get it correct - to do it right the first time.  Ash Wednesday presents us with a once in a year opportunity to - get it right.  For those who minister during Ash Wednesday services - serving at the altar - imposing blessed ashes on the foreheads of the faithful - one chance to get it correct.  In theory - blessed ashes - gently placed on the foreheads of those who approach the minister- ashes in hand - says a few words then - with their thumb - traces a cross on the penitent's forehead.  In more instances than one will admit - the cross appears more like a blob - a smudge.  

God does not expect perfection - never asked us to be perfect - never expected it.  What he does look for - faithfulness.  Ashes too dry - too damp - applied too quickly - does not matter.  The fact that one approached the altar - admitting they are a sinner - seeking help - on their journey to holiness - speaks volumes - especially to God.  The one who applied ashes - an imperfect result -  nothing to do with perfection - failure.  The real goal - place ashes on the forehead - no matter what it looks like.  One approached on their way to holiness - another there - in the moment - helping their fellow pilgrim - to achieve that goal.  In God's eye - a definite win - win situation.  As we join together over the next 40 days - all of us - by ourselves - with our community - walking our own journey - on our own path - aiming for the same goal - the golden ring of holiness.

Deacon Dale 

Becoming your parents

Time for a rant here - there is a commercial on television that I see constantly that really irritates me.  The tag line - an older male “life coach” helps young people keep from becoming their parents by lampooning various things we’ve all seen our parents do - things that many of us older people have done - still do.  I am assuming this is done - tongue in cheek - as an older parent - it completely rubs me the wrong way.  Because of their ads - I would never buy their product - then again - I am not their target audience.  My reason - I never find any fun - pleasure - whenever anyone is made the point of ridicule.  Over the past years we have made it a point to avoid pointing fingers at racial - ethnic - gender - specific peoples.  So when did the older generation become an open target?  Years ago a study was done with high school students asking them who their heroes were.  A small percent named celebrities - sports figures - actors - and such.  The majority - however - named their parents - mom - dad  - their heroes - wishing to follow in their footsteps - achieving what they had accomplished - rising above numerous barriers - to achieve better education - occupations - lives for their families.  Most of us grew up with an appreciation of our own parents' struggles in an attempt to provide us with better lives - in turn - the majority of us have done likewise.  The feeling that parents have experienced when they were able to open new doors for their children - providing them opportunities that were not available to them as children is the fuel that drove the majority to excel and achieve all that they did.   

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When Jesus walked among the people He tried to help people understand that in God's eyes - all were His children - all were equal in His eyes.  What we have gained on one hand is unfortunately lost on the other - often in the attempt to make financial gains - at the expense of others.  What value is it for one to gain the wealth of the world - when they too quickly discard the value - wealth - of the very people around them?  As God loving people - all of us are called to avoid discrimination - to treat all others - no matter the - age - race - gender - ethnicity - equally.  With God in ones heart - this is an easy choice - a choice that we are called to make every day.  

Deacon Dale 

Valentine Blessings

Would it be redundant to say I love Valentines Day - basically saying - in effect - I love Love.  In my mind never wrong to admit that loving Love is admirable - a goal that all should attempt to attain.  Unfortunately there are many who have been hurt in the name of Love - taken advantage of - false love - love of things in place of persons.  True Love will never hurt - lie - make one feel bad - sad.  In Scripture it says in Corinthians 13:4-7, 13  "Love is patient, love is kind. It is not jealous, [love] is not pompous, it is not inflated, it is not rude, it does not seek its own interests, it is not quick-tempered, it does not brood over injury, it does not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.  So faith, hope, love remain, these three; but the greatest of these is Love." (NABRE)  

When God made the decision to send His only begotten Son - His Love to live - walk - share life with humans - He who is Love - sent His Love to be with each of us.  Even today - although we cannot see - we can - do - feel His Love.  He is the author - creator of Love.  That Love is there for each of us - every day - not just on Valentines.  Open your heart to Him - let His Love fill you today and every day of your life.

Deacon Dale 

Through The Intercession....

In Catholic liturgy we very often hear - through the intercession - saints - faithful - those who we lovingly refer to as - Prayer Warriors.  The month of February begins with Candlemas - blessing of candles - on the Second and Blessing of Throats on the Third and for many - during this upcoming weekend liturgies - as parishes stretch these two special blessing to the weekend so that all parishioners may participate. Participation by the faithful is normally well attended especially since the blessing of throats happens during the cold and flu season.  The blessing of throats is attributed to Saint Blaise who according to tradition cured a child who had a fish bone stuck in their throat. He was a physician and bishop of Sebastea in historical Armenia who is venerated as a Christian saint and martyr.  His feast falls on February 3rd in the Western Church and in the Eastern Churches on February 11th - thus the floating date of veneration.  

Intercessory prayer is very common in various religions - a common way to share ones faith - praying for the needs of others - community - nation - world.  All that is required is to be a person of faith - to believe in God - however you call Him - to believe that He hears all prayers - answers all prayers - according to His will - in His time.  Today there is a serious need for prayer in so many ways - by so many people.  As a disciple - we are all called to intercede for the needs of others - family - friends - anyone who is in need.  No special training - no special words - are needed - only an open heart and a few moments of ones time.  Try it - you might like it. 

Deacon Dale 

When Words Fail.....

If you ask anyone - the majority will admit that there were occasions when words failed them - unable to speak.  Moments such as this happen more often than most will admit - no words - choosing to turn - walk away - speechless.  When this happens - many become frustrated - angry - embarrassed that they had no answer - no reply.  For those who are open - in those moments God sends them - tears - hugs.  Sad occasions very often prompt such responses - funerals especially draw these emotions out of people who are compassionate.  Lacking the words required - a simple heartfelt hug - allowing tears to flow - speaks volumes to others.

As humans our basic instinct is to care.  Care for ourselves - care for others - care for our community.  This basic feeling distinguishes us from other animals.  In God's plan each of us was created for each other - the gifts He has given us - the abilities - skills - although beneficial to ourselves - intended to be freely shared with others.  In Genesis 2:18 we are told: "The Lord God said: it is not good for the man to be alone.  I will make a helper suited to him."  From that action God created woman and from that action followed - family - community.  Just as man benefited from a partner who would be a helper so did those who followed also become helpers.  None of us is an island - more than we sometimes want to admit - there are others available to assist - when words fail - there are tears - hugs - words spoken by others.  In this day and age we need to thank God for those around us.  In humility we need to thank - praise Him for this awesome gift.  Together - in God's name - as brothers - sisters - we can not only survive but excel in all we try.  

Deacon Dale 

If At First.....

We all know the saying - "If at first you don't...... fill in the blank here depending on your specific circumstances.." - often may lead to frustration - disappointment - depression - anxiety.  I am fairly safe in stating that all of us can say - been there - done that.  And so it was with our yearly arrival in Arizona where we go to escape the cold Midwest winters.  Settled in after a quick flight - inspecting our accommodations - checking that everything was in good working condition - anticipating a peaceful frustration free time in the warm sunny desert.  That lasted exactly four days - day five had other plans for us - in particular for me.  Half way through a morning bike ride a weird sensation that told me time to visit a doctor - immediately.  The result - eight hours in the emergency room doing various tests - being admitted - spending three nights in the hospital - going home with a stent in a coronary artery. Through-out the entire time and procedure - no pain - simply a weird feeling that something was not right.  Back home - out riding again - weird feeling gone.  

Flowers On A Desert Cactus 

I am a firm believer that there is no such thing as - normal.  Normal is a state that many spend way too much time trying to achieve.  The perception of what is normal for one - often night and day to another.  I think what we have is routine - customized by our personal preferences and life experiences. In simple words - my normal is not your normal - nor should it be.  When God created the world and all that is in it - He looked around and was pleased at what He saw. He saw you and me.  He saw that we were different variations of humankind. Creatures that can think - speak - reason - function in similar but different ways.  For all of  us - God speaks in various - different ways - though audible sounds - through sights - smells - touch.  No one of us is identical - even in the case of identical twins - differences exist.  Unless you live in the Sonoran desert you would never expect to see a multitude of beautiful flowers on a cactus which also grows long sharp needles.  In many lives those flowers belong on plants with soft flowery stems surround by grasses - not sand and gravel.  In my personal experience God was with me as much in that hospital as He was during that eventful bike ride - just as He is this afternoon as I sit writing this blog.  For all of us - He is always at our side - leading us - calling us - to come closer to Him and His Son.  When life feels weird to you - stop - pause - reflect - to many that is their normal.

Deacon Dale 

Blessings

Blessings abound at this time of year - festivals - celebrations - gatherings - with family and friends - impromptu meet ups - all arraigned by Our Lord.  It does not matter if you are a believer or not - there are no coincidences - everything that we have - receive - comes either directly or indirectly from God.  After all - He is the Author - the Creator - the One who wills everything in our lives.  The Magic of the Holidays - Hanukkah -  Christmas - Kwanzaa - Diwali - all originates in the blessings that God sends upon all His people.  We may celebrate different days - feasts - primarily due to cultural and language differences - but in all - signs that God - however we call Him - are meant for all of us. 

As we end this year and look forward to the next adventure that we call the New Year - we need to pause - take stock - look around - ask ourselves - what will be my goal - purpose -  to make 2022 a wonderful year - for all.  Do it now - while you have the time

Deacon Dale 

Going Viral

 In regards to social media of almost every type - going viral - instant success.  Getting thousands - millions of likes - an overnight success.  In that regards - going viral is good - considering the content.  When considering the current state of one's health - going viral - not good.  As we come to the close of 2021 - going viral - getting seriously sick - dying - appears to be the only concern of news media for almost two solid years now.  Yes the virus is with us - thank you.  Yes people are dying - sorry for your loss.   Yes the entire world is in a shambles - do you have to remind us day in and day out?  What about the good news - how about sharing with us those who have survived - those who have been infected - but did not get sick - those who are acting in a positive way?  My nephew's wife recently gave birth to a set of twin boys - isn't that something to celebrate.  How about all  those who successfully completed their formal education and have graduated from high school - college.  How about conflicts that never escalated because sane minds prevailed and peaceful resolutions were found. 

John 14:27  Jesus told us "Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid."  Those few lines should help all of us who are consumed - eaten up - by the constant attack on us by the media.  Worry is not of God - Peace is His gift.  As we draw closer to the celebration of Christ's birth we need to cast aside all anxiety - fear - worry - and rest in His Peace.

Deacon Dale 

BOO T FULL

 Yes we are very close to that day when many thoughts turn to ghosts - goblins - vampires - things that go bump in the night.  Too many - judging harshly - uninformed - immediately think of things which belong to the spiritual world - filled only with scary - dark creatures.  Rarely do they consider that in the spiritual world there exists good as well as evil - just as it exists in daylight. All one has to do is read the news - watch television - listen to the radio - to learn of the many evils being done in the world - in daylight - right before their eyes.  Things labeled as good - masking the evil behind them.  It all comes down to who is telling the story - how the tale is twisted - to the good - bad side of reality.  Specifically - Halloween - misunderstood - people turning off porch lights - drawing curtains - shades - fearing the evil - ringing  their door bell.  In this day - these monsters of the night - captured on camera via doorbell cameras - three and five year old children or such - dressed in hideous masks and costumes - scaring people as - gasp - fairy princesses - frogs - puppies - ballerinas - cowboys & cowgirls - nurses - creatures from the dark lagoon - dinosaurs - things from every imaginable realm - superheroes - seeking what?  Blood? Flesh? Your soul?  Not really - more like sweets - candy - treats of every sort.  Yes it is scary - you might have to spend twenty dollars on treats for these terrible monsters - reminding you of your own youth - before you grew up and decided that Halloween was a tool of the devil.  Realistically - there is more evil in schools - churches - politics - than anyone is willing to admit. Yes - they walk among us - not zombies - rather those who are word smiths - crafting sweet sounding sound bites - leading us astray. 

Halloween - All Saints - All Souls - celebrations remembering those who have died - experiencing their second Rite of Passage - similar to the first Rite of birthing - entering this world - now passing on to the next existence - drawn even closer to God - eternal life - salvation. Yes all three are beautiful in their own way - various stages of life - expressed in different ways - customs of various groups of people - different cultures - different histories - all honoring the lives of those who came before them. Marked with the T - the sign of the Cross - the fullness of life. Yes Boo T Full.

Deacon Dale

Golden Nuggets

This weekend - thirty-three years ago - I was ordained as a Permanent Deacon for the Diocese of Joliet-in-Illinois by Bishop Joseph Imesch DD.  I remember being hesitant about ordination - what to do - where to go - what to say - in the end everything came off without a hitch.  Later that Saturday I served at the 5:00 PM Holy Mass and delivered my very first homily. That homily with slight variations was repeated that Sunday again at the 8:00 AM and 10:00 AM Masses.  As I preached the same message at successive Masses I grew slightly more comfortable and the third time around felt as if I had delivered a decent message.  Two comments stick with me now - thirty-three years later.  The first - great homily only 9 minutes long - obviously I would learn better to be concise rather than lengthy - people had others things to do on Sunday rather than spend all day in church.  The second was from a lawyer friend who had considered becoming a priest and had spent a fair amount of time in Scripture study.  In regards to the Gospel which we heard again this weekend (Matthew 19:24)  It is easier for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle than for one who is rich to enter the kingdom of God."  I do not remember exactly what I said back then - the significant point was that my friend told me I had presented to him and the parishioners a - nugget - a thought on that verse that he had never considered in all of his years of scripture study.  I have preached hundreds of homilies since that day in different churches here domestically and internationally and in each and everyone I attempt to leave a useful nugget with those who have ears to hear.  Not everyone will hear the same message - all of us process information - stories - words - through various - different lens.  I use to laugh when my twin would tell stories of our childhood - very often I would turn to him and ask him - whose house did you live in - his version often like night and day from my recollections.  That does not say he was wrong or confused - rather his mind remembered - processed information slightly different than mine.  My goal - share the Word of God - in simple relatable terms - leaving nuggets as I preach. 

The "Other Twelve" Permanent Deacons Ordained Oct. 8, 1988

Jesus said it was easier for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle - who was he kidding - or was he? Most people will think of a sewing needle when they hear that statement. Someone living at the time of Jesus more likely would have thought of the vey narrow passageway through the walls surrounding the village - openings in a wall that any person could easily walk through whereas a camel could - only if pushed and shoved after removing their load that they carried. Devested of that load with one person in front pulling while another in back was pushing would often be able to get a tall bulky animal through that "eye". The message from Jesus - unload ourselves of our burdens - obligations - our wealth - anything we carry on our shoulders - to free us up - to accept His gift of forgiveness - love - salvation. Then - only then - could we enter the kingdom of God.  To my brothers ordained in 1988 - Happy Anniversary of Ordination - may each of you as you continue in your ministry as deacon leave nuggets wherever you go.  For the rest of you - may our efforts as deacons be a constant blessing for each of you.

Deacon Dale